Why I Find Talking Hard
Just to clarify, it not the action of waggling my mouth that I find difficult (I am very good at yapping) but more the process of finding words, then regretting saying them. Often I overthink situations. For example, I’ll have a conversation with my friend and think about that conversation all day. I will re-enact the situation, replacing words with other ones and, from that, creating a reaction from my friend. This may sound very confusing to you, but I am confident that some people can resonate with what I am saying.
When I am mindlessly walking to school is, usually, when I think of this. I walk up to the bus stop and take a look at who is there, who I can hold a conversation with as wait for the bus. Prior to the meeting, I will give myself a script to follow as I talk to them. However, this obviously depends on their reaction. Usually, in the script, I am the one to start conversation. When the other person does, I very quickly have to take on another script.
Despite all this, I do sometimes use words incorrectly or mess up my plurals. Then, because of this strange (I think this is what you call an overthinking?) thought process I own, of course I correct other people when they mess up like I do. This may be aloud or just a mental correction. It is very hypocrytical but it’s in order to try and get myself to do it right next time.
This is why writing is an easier communication for me. I can always go back and correct/change things before I click ‘send’ or put it in the envelope.
Is this relatable to anyone?
Please tell me in the comments, I am a growing human and need some reassurance. π
I find writing a lot easier too – you’re not alone haha π
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Thank you for the reassurance! I always love hearing from you, Gracie π
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You’re very welcome π x
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Yes I also find it easier to write… @gracie and @kittyjade
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It usually is easier!
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It’s easier because I have almost zero fear of getting judged… now since I have written many posts and got a lot of comments, they were actually either encouraging or correcting me in a constructive way… so now I have zero fear..
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Well done to you!
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Glad to know we’re not alone haha!
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You don’t even know how many times I wished to re-enact a moment to use a better argument.
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I’m glad someone else has the same thought process βΊοΈ Thanks for reading! x
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I used to have really bad social phobia and anxiety when I was much younger, and I didn’t start ‘coming out of my shell’ more until my late teens. Even then, talking was a struggle, but over the years I’ve grown far more confident with it. You could even mistake me for someone who is confident & finds chatting a breeze! Part of what helped me was learning to laugh at myself, to not take myself too seriously. But I still overthink everything I say or rehearse words & phrases before I say them; caring less about these things is, I think, a constant work-in-progress.
Caz xx
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Thank you for sharing your βstoryβ. I am not a shy person but I often, like I said, overthink situations. Iβm glad that things have improved for you, and all the best!
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It was the overthinking it that stayed with me, it’s the hardest thing to deal with in conversations I think when we pick apart what we’ve said, how we’ve come across, what others thought, whether we missed saying something, whether we should have said something differently or made mistakes etc. x
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@invisibily me… I’m turning 17 this year.. this is what exactly happened with me
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I’m now 30 (do NOT feel like it, I seemed to miss out on most of my 20s so I feel younger)! hahah
Honestly, I think it’s all a learning curve so don’t be hard on yourself for overthinking it or worrying about conversations and such xx
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You are a teenager ? (As per what you wrote in this post)
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Yes I am!
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Oh wow ! I’m also teenager… turning 17 this July.. !
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Happy Birthday in advance (Iβll probably forget when we get there π)
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Thanks! π β€β€β€β€
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So sweet of you to wish me! We don’t even know each other.. now I believe that sweet people exist on earth ..
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Lots of sweet people exist on earth!
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Wow ! I didn’t know this…
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No this was not sarcastic…I’m actually telling it…mostly I met selfish people… that’s why…
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It’s okay π
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